1. Check for any physical blocks, such as ED
If you or your partner are suffering from a physical barrier to sex, such as erectile dysfunction, it can take a heavy toll on your relationship over the months, and even years.
Here is a quick quiz you can take to see if you suffer from erectile dysfunction.
If you find that you do suffer from ED, along with millions of men, there is help that you can get that doesn’t require medication, surgery, or injections.
Visit WaveTech Therapy for your first 15-minute free consultation to see how an all-natural treatment known as acoustic wave therapy has helped thousands of men reverse their erectile dysfunction for up to 3 years and longer.
2. Check for any emotional blocks
It’s so easy to get bogged down by the minutiae of life. So if you’re looking at how to spice up your relationship simply take time to let your partner know you love them. Know and understand what kind of connection your partner likes.
If it’s regular hugs go for it, or if it’s a simple bum grab as they walk past in the kitchen, tune into it and do it.
“Knowing your feelings and being attuned is really important and not a skill to take for granted,” says Dr Juliana. “Sometimes we can have a really small repertoire of feelings words to use and don’t realize it. I always recommend my clients look up words for feelings and use them.”
3. Understand and speak your partner’s love language
This is an important step, but rarely executed.
Dr. Gary Chapman’s book “Five Love Languages” really should be required reading for everyone interested in having a romantic relationship. The book describes the various love languages we all “speak.”
Dr Chapman was quoted as saying; “How to spice up your relationship relies on learning to meet each other’s deep emotional need to feel loved, and choose to do it, the love we share will be exciting beyond anything we’ve ever felt.”
Knowing your partner’s love language is fundamental in a relationship. Because while you can love someone with every fibre in your body, unless you are conveying that love in a way they can understand it, they’ll never truly feel loved and desired.
4. Take time for you
This may seem like funny advice for spicing up a relationship, but missing each other is a great thing.
Spending lots of time together is key to maintaining a relationship, but there is such thing as too much of a good thing. Allow yourself and your partner time away to rejuvenate for the sake of the individual and the relationship.
5. Hire a Relationship & Sex Coach
Sometimes the best thing you can do to fix a “problem” is to bring in the experts. Why not try something new?
If your partner isn’t open to talking about sex or improving your sex life, or if you never orgasm, a good sex coach could be a major relationship saver.
Visit the Somatica Institute, the US professional body for therapists and counsellors specialising in psychosexual and relationship therapy issues to find a coach or practitioner near you. “The best tip of all is to know it’s okay to ask for help,” says Juliette.